Added: Lise Sechrist - Date: 29.10.2021 00:48 - Views: 37387 - Clicks: 3490
My husband is a great father. We have a 3 year old daughter and an 18 month old daughter. They are truly blessed. I chose for them the kind of father I always wanted. My 3 year old girl, however, has always preferred me.
I breastfed her until 28 months, and had supply problems in the early days. I really feel like I nursed her constantly until she started solids. If she gets hurt, she runs to me. If she needs comfort, she runs to me. She wants me, and only me, and sees Daddy as a poor substitute.
It made me feel like a failure as a mother, so she learned that if she cried she got me right back. Last night when we were going to bed, she woke up, too. I want Mommy. Even after I sat down in the chair, and she knew I was staying there, she told Daddy to go away.
She would rather lay by herself than snuggle with him! The other issue is that her behavior really deteriorates from the time he gets home from work until bed.
His relationship with our other child is much better. She lights up when he comes in the room. Do you or your readers have any other ideas for how I can encourage a healthier relationship between them? Please help! Stop blaming yourself. Right now! I preferred my mother over my father very strongly for awhile too. My mother never had any supply issues, and I weaned myself at five months old, so…there goes that theory.
My mom stayed home, my dad worked, but he was a loving, wonderful father. I just…wanted my mom. I actually remember getting in the car with him — he was trying to take me to a movie or something similarly awesome in the world of a three-year-old — and screaming my head off as we backed out of the driveway because nooooo! He eventually turned the car around and came home, completely defeated. If there does a time when one parent really needs to play the heavy, then yeah, make it you. Also, remember that any time she is tired or hungry or in a general toddler funk is NOT the time to be pushing for daddy time.
Have Mommy get her the sandwich…and have Daddy get her dessert. Like you noticed, toddler behavior deteriorates at night, so maybe focus more on the weekends for chances for him to get involved rather than trying to force the issue with an out-of-sorts. Why is Daddy ruining things? A Saturday morning trip out to pick up donuts or bagels for the family could be a nice ritual especially as it involves a treat AND doing something nice for Mommy.
My dad was a teacher, and used to bring home colored copier paper or little notebooks or highlighters for me, and OH MAN, that would make my whole night. And also possibly started my own life of stolen office supply crime.
Also, do not underestimate the impact of a new sibling. Maybe, instead of constantly praising Daddy during the day, she needs to hear more about you, and how special she is to you, and how you love spending time with her, blah blah blah — all the stuff that we all feel but sometimes forget to say out loud on a regular basis. But really, it IS a phase.
A really normal, common phase. And all the wonderful, loving but currently unappreciated things your husband has been doing for his children will be the foundation to a fantastic father-daughter relationship for the rest of their lives. Amalah is a pseudonym of Amy Corbett Storch. She is the author of the Advice Smackdown and Bounce Back. If there is a question you would like answered on the Advice Smackdown, please submit it to [ protected]. Amy is mother to rising first-grader Noah, preschooler Ezra, and toddler Ike.Mom is away dad wants to play
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