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Forgot your password? Very recently, we met with a couple where the male is confined to a wheelchair. He's capable of sexual intercourse, but is quite severely handicapped. They were willing, and I was as well, but it fell upon my wife to make the decision since she'd be dealing directly with the other male.

After considering it a couple of days, she reluctantly declined, saying she wasn't comfortable with the situation. We've kept in contact with them since, including a phone conversation last night. From what was said on their end, it's clear they're still harbouring some hope we'll change our mind. We feel badly about it, since they're very nice people, and personality-wise it was a match.

This is something we've never seen addressed before in swinging. Great topic. You are right this isn't something you see addressed much. Although I can say I've received a few s from guys who are in similar situations as your friend, whether it be a wheelchair, hearing impairment or otherwise.

I think it all comes back around to swinging isn't much different than dating.

Seeking other special needs swinger couples adults

And, I'm sure there are some out there who can handle the added "pressures" of dealing with disabilities in their swinging relationships. It's nothing against you if you can't nor does it say that you are discriminating against them. In the meantime you've made friends and who knows. We've been in similiar situations where we've been contacted by a couple where the guy was in a wheelchair.

We ended up making the same decision. There are enough factors that go into swinging as it is.

Seeking other special needs swinger couples adults

Perhaps if we had gotten to know them as friends first rather than it being a lifestyle situation then the opportunity came around. We've strived to maintain a platonic friendship with these two, but each time we talk, they again raise the issue of us having a foursome. This despite being told politely but firmly 'no thank you' a few months ago. And again this evening, after us phoning them to say a friendly hello, the other guy ended up pressuring Janette once again to reconsider.

Sad to say, but we're thinking of severing ties with them completely because of the repeated requests for sex on their part. Janette no longer wants to participate in any phone conversations with them, and I can't blame her. It really doesn't matter what the situation is. You hit the nail on the head. This is a nice couple that I would have liked to keep in touch with. But now I am feeling that sex is all they are interested in. I am to the point that I don't even want to speak to them on the phone.

I feel constintly pressured and made to feel guilty for saying no because of his situation. Then again maybe they aren't as nice a couple as I thought. I thought that NO meant NO. I don't want this to become an experience that will tarnish how I look or feel about this lifestyle. I guess Dan and I need to have a talk about this. Sorry for ranting, I guess last night bothered me more than I realised then.

The minute any one of you started feeling "guilty" about this or any other relationship, it's "SO long and bye-bye" for them! Janette should be very proud to have a husband like yourself, and visa-versa of having a great wife!

Seeking other special needs swinger couples adults

True love does conquer all I'm a disabled man who uses a wheelchair to live and my girlfriend and I have discussed trying the lifestyle. We have never had any problems with sex, but obviously being disabled means we have to change our technique somewhat from what most AB able-bodied people probably maintain. I'm concerned about a few things I would appreciate some responses to:. Of course all you can do is try it like everyone else. If you don't go you will never know if you shoud have or not. The handicapped issue will depend on who you meet and your personality types, what you expect etc.

No one can tell anyone whether they will have a successful venture into swingland but if you don't go you definetely won't. Interesting you bring this up. A little over a year ago we met a couple where the man was confined to a wheelchair. We knew this prior to meeting and my wife and I were both willing to consider swinging with them, which is why we agreed to meet. Upon meeting, we learned he was more disabled than what we were led to believe. He was not only confined to the wheelchair, but disabled to the point of having to be strapped in.

Seeking other special needs swinger couples adults

In fact, overall physically he had a myriad of problems we hadn't been aware of. Personality-wise, we all seemed to click, and in fact they made it quite aware that the sex was pretty much available on demand, even after the meeting if we so desired. I had no problems with either of them, and left the decision solely up to my wife. After two or three days consideration, she very reluctantly declined, mainly because of the unknown factor involved with her having sex with a man so physically debilitated. It was the most difficult and troubling decision she's had to make in this, the couple were both very nice.

In fact, it's still somewhat distressing to us both to have had to say no to these two. We did stay in phone contact with them for a few months afterwards, but the man began to pressure Janette into reconsidering.

Seeking other special needs swinger couples adults

That ended our contact with them. Well, my sincerest thanks to the Canadian Couple for the relevant anecdote and the other responses. I'm sorry that someone out there is misrepresenting their disability, but I guess I'm even more disappointed that the disability did indeed become an issue, at least at the beginning. You're right, Julie, it became a issue of "pushy" after that. People are people regardless of disability and there are a few bad eggs out there in all strata. And while it was my hope that I might receive more responses along the lines of: "disability doesn't matter one iota because we're all so open-minded," I guess I shouldn't really be surprised that it seems it's the same in the lifestyle as in life.

ABs able-bodied for the most part are afraid of the thought of the disabled as sexual beings. Wish it wasn't that way but it is. I'm guessing as well, that not too many of the lifestyle clubs can even accommodate wheelchairs. Julie, yes we'd posted about this last year.

It was something that isn't normally spoken of much in the lifestyle, and we had to put it out there to see how others felt on the subject. The only other thing I can remember ever seeing was an ad from a few years ago in a Canadian swingers magazine print version where the female of a couple advertising for partners had ly undergone a mastectomy. Yes, I realize it's not a disability, but something physically a bit out of the ordinary when reading swingers.

They lived much too far from us, but the mastectomy would have no bearing on me whatsover in our assessment of them as potential partners.

Seeking other special needs swinger couples adults

Personality is paramount in our decisions, but speaking strictly in terms of physical attraction, breasts are very nice, but certainly not my favorite part of the female anatomy. And what is? You're sitting on it. J -- Thank you for the response to our post. Regarding the couple we spoke of, there was somewhat more to the situation than we'd alluded to in here.

The man was really in quite rough shape physically, in fact it was difficult to imagine this fellow even capable of intercourse. In addition to that, he informed us he was capable of such only with him on his back, with the woman on top. The problem here is, my wife and I were involved in a serious car crash infive weeks before our wedding.

She suffered a ificant knee injury which limits her time she's able to spend riding a man on top, so we had a further complication with these two. I want to reiterate, her decision wasn't made lightly. She really agonized over this for a few days before coming to the decision she did, and was very upset at having to deliver the bad news to the other couple.

Truth be told, these two seemed almost desperate to hook up with someone, and had been turned down numerous times. And that's not counting the dozens of contacts they'd made that weren't even responded to. Janette and I both felt terrible at having to add to their list of disappointments. We still do. This occurrence prompted me at the time to pose a hypothetical question to my co-workers.

None of them are aware we swing, but I did ask them all male at the time if they'd ever have sex with a woman confined to a wheelchair I had five co-workers at the time To my surprise they all said no. Would I? If all our other considerations Seeking other special needs swinger couples adults take into were positive, the answer is an unequivocal yes.

It's obvious you and your wife are a cut above most, and I appreciate the additional details. I for one, would not want to misrepresent my abilities as a matter of courtesy. I also will say sex for the disabled in my case, an active athletic paraplegic with full use of upper body and the ability for intercourse is by definition non-traditional so what might seem inconsquential to me as a disabled lover may be somewhat substantial and foreign to ABs. And while the majority of the time I'm on the bottom, I've also learned over the years that there are so many other ways to perform that I've never thought of being on the bottom as a hinderance.

Generally, however, it does take my lovers a few tries before we're totally comfortable with it together. I can imagine if we were to become regulars at a club or at events, we would be frustrated by the reaction to my disability but hopeful that after a while just give us a chance we would find willing and accommodating partners. I'm just now not sure I'm willing to subject myself or my girlfriend to that misery in order to find the needle in the proverbial haystack. Unfortunately, as open-minded as swingers are regarding some things, they are still just regular people.

And with regular people comes a lot of prejudices. Just a look at the topic on weight here will tell you that.

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