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When in proper rhythm, it is the perfect combination. It gives the relationship movement. The couple is never stuck; they are continually in motion.
When in the wrong rhythm, it is frustrating. Movement grinds to a halt, momentum is lost, and each spouse is looking at the other wondering what is wrong. Marriage has a rhythm.
Both husbands and wives have roles to play. When executed well, the marriage thrives. When roles are ignored, the marriage struggles. While there is more to marriage than just these two things, the presence of pursuit and seduction are vital to a healthy marriage. Husbands are to pursue their wives. They are to use their strength to chase after the heart of their wives. Nearly every relationship begins with a man pursuing after a woman. He seeks her attention, her phonea first date, a first kiss, and eventually her hand in marriage. Men were created to pursue. When channeled in the right way, it is one of the great gifts of masculinity.
When directed at the wrong things, our nature can destroy everything around us. Wives are to seduce their husbands. They are to use their beauty not just physical beauty but beauty in mind, soul, and body to draw their husband to them. Women do this consciously and subconsciously as a relationship begins. They flash their eyes, linger their smile, and use a subtle touch to draw a man to them.
This seduction should not stop when a ring is placed on her finger. She should continue to lure her man with who she is. She should draw him in.
Pursuit and seduction are about more than just sex. They are reminders that we were created differently than our spouses and our differences are intended for good. Unfortunately, what comes so naturally in dating becomes non-existent in many marital relationships. The result is a marriage which feels stuck. Every relationship will have moments of feeling like it is in a rut. Growth is never a steady track upward. However, being stuck is different than a minor plateau.
It becomes a continual state. Until someone changes, nothing will change. The change which often needs to take place is for a husband to once again pursue his wife and for a wife to seduce her husband. The funny thing about pursuit and seduction is that when both are present, they feed off of one another. When a husband pursues his wife and she begins to seduce his heart, he is more likely to pursue her. The struggle is when one spouse tries to do their part and it is not reciprocated. Then they feel as though their effort is in vain.
You need to seek professional help.
When you stop trying, you are dying. Get help before the relationship fades away. A man is not pursuing his wife when the only time he touches her, he does so in hopes of sexual fulfillment. A woman is not seducing her husband if the only time they have sex is under the covers with the lights out.
A man is not pursuing his wife when he studies his hobbies more than her heart.
A woman is not seducing her husband when she attempts to be seen by her friends but not her husband. A man is not pursuing his wife when he sacrifices everything for work but nothing for her.
A woman is not seducing her husband when he is always the last thing on her priority list. Every marriage goes through seasons in which the relationship plateaus, but a healthy couple does not let the relationship stall in those places. If your marriage feels stuck, do this:. Commit to them that you are going to do your part either pursue or seduce. When You Feel Stuck, Start Here: Every marriage goes through seasons in which the relationship plateaus, but a healthy couple does not let the relationship stall in those places.
If your marriage feels stuck, do this: 1. Humbly tell your spouse about your feelings. Plan another conversation for one week later and review the week. Please name, and a comment.Married and feeling stuck
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